I grew up culturally Baptist and Pentacostal. Being part of Christian culture means certain evangelical mentalities and tenets become second nature to you, even if you don’t much understand what you’re memorizing. As children we learned that, “…God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son so that whosoever believeth in him … Continue reading Forgiveness Is The Work We Don’t Talk Enough About
When I was a child I scowled. My expression was a severe case of "Resting Bitch Face". I do not remember being very unhappy as a child, but I do remember not being overly happy. I simply existed in my life, experiencing moments of joy and moments of sadness, together intertwined the way kudzu vines … Continue reading You Will Probably Survive Your Messed Up Childhood
Today for the first time publicly, I want to explain the ins and outs of this name change and why I finally felt ready to.
It's taken me years to work out what to call what happened that night. For the first five years it was "consensual". I told myself that because I didn't understand that sexual assault and sexual harrassment are nuanced. The first 25 years of my life I'd been taught that rape and sexual assault only happened … Continue reading My Sexual Assault – The Truth & Why I Didn’t Report
If Mothers Day is hard, I understand this too well. There were many Mothers Days when I couldn't call my mom. There were years of frustration, pain, and anger. Even after her death I'm still coming to terms with how our relationship did and didn't work and so for me, Mothers Day is hard. My … Continue reading If Mothers Day Is Hard
These past few weeks I've watched in horror and support of the women who bore witness against Dr. Larry Nassar, the USA Gymnastics doctor who sexually assaulted at least 150 women, many of them minors as young as 12, over the span of his decades long career. In these moments where I'm lost in their … Continue reading When Someone You Love Has Been Sexually Assaulted
This has been a long time coming. I didn't intend to get to this point. As a matter of fact, I thought myself brave for not even considering forgiveness. It took me years to work up the courage to get justifiably angry and once I got there, it never occurred to me that there'd come … Continue reading To The Women Who Have Hurt Me: I Forgive You